In this module we looked carefully at a developmental model of ways of communicating (Nelson-Jones). We are encouraged to re visit our early experiences of being listened to, how we dealt with conflict or avoided it. How we took up roles within the family be it a dysfunctional role like that of a scapegoat or of a functional role. As we become aware of these early patterns of communicating and listening we realise just how much we lack in effective relating skills. Issues that begin to be dealt with are shyness, fear of blame, conflict and aggressive behaviour. If we do not feel competent to deal with these areas then we are not fully developed in our own awareness of dealing with situations of conflict, shyness, fear of inadequacy in the here and now and in the future. We also look at the social context we are in by exploring the theory of a post-modern society.

We learn to listen effectively and non-judgementally by exploration of some theories of listening and how to become an effective listener. In exploring what it means to be ourselves, there is also a need that we all share and that is to belong; that is learning to be ourselves and longing to be in relationship with others. There comes with this a seeking, a deep down desire to become a community. As a group we explored different understandings of community by two writers, M. Scott-Peck and Henri Nouwen. In community people find a common vision, common values and working practices that is inclusive and accepting of differences.